Member-only story
3 Elements of Avoidant Attachment
What to look out for if you meet someone with an avoidant attachment pattern
The avoidant attachment style is developed when a child is consistently discouraged from seeking help when hurt emotionally or physically. These children learn that if they suppress how they feel, they will not be ignored by their parents at a young age.
With this form of attachment, children are usually entirely independent and learn (by necessity) to self-soothe when they need comfort. Overall, this attachment style is seen to be more common in men. Although it still does exist in some women. It makes sense that these sorts of experiences can significantly affect us later on in life, especially in relationships.
Commitment
When someone portrays the avoidant attachment style in relationships, they will often struggle with commitment. They feel like they don’t need anyone and thus are not motivated to commit to relationships. This comes from the unresolved feelings of abandonment at a young age.
They will try to avoid intimacy in relationships and find a way to leave if things get too intimate. In addition, some people with this attachment style may attempt to sabotage a relationship before it even has a chance to grow. This is because they feel that…
